It was either the Dalai Lama or a motivational Instagram meme that said: Learn to let go.
Or maybe I saw it screen printed on a Lorna Jane slogan tank top. Either way, it’s a message that many people need to hear right now. Step back and stop trying so hard.
There’s a difference between being persistent and just being annoying.
The meth junkie who keeps trying to steal my mail while taking fake business calls on a broken Motorola Razr? He’s persistent.
Firass Dirani on SAS Australia refusing to quit the show despite his celebrity co-stars staging an intervention and begging him to leave? Try-hard.
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These kinds of people are convinced that, if they try just a little bit harder, they’ll be able to completely change whatever terrible relationship or situation they’re in.
Nothing’s more uncomfortable than watching people try too hard. It comes out of desperation and an unwillingness to read the signs of resistance.
Try-hards are addicted to resistance – it’s their drug. The more resistance, the more they try and the tighter they cling.
Firass has been a pariah on the extreme Channel 7 reality show since day one. He’s hellbent on trying to appear as a very serious actor but instead he’s coming off as a wanker with a bad attitude.
And the more this behaviour gets him in trouble, the more he leans into it because he thinks he’s just misunderstood. He’s convinced he can change everyone’s minds.
But the harder he tries, the worse it becomes and that’s what led to the on-screen intervention. Now, if a regular person was surrounded by a group of colleagues and told to please leave, they might bow out gracefully and take a moment to do some reflection. But not try-hards.
Something like this happens and there’s only one thought that comes into their heads: Try harder.
Oh, yeah, sure … that’ll make people like you – dig your heels in more.
Firass isn’t the only one. His SAS co-star Candice Warner is now trying hard to fix her relationship with ex-friend Roxy Jacenko.
There are sadder things in the world than not being friends with Roxy but whatever. Their feud has played out in the headlines ever since the two were pitted against each other in a boxing match on SAS and Candice laid into her mate as per the rules.
“You know what? Is [Candice] really my friend anymore? No,” Roxy told Kyle and Jackie O about the fall-out – later saying the former IronWoman is “delusional” to think they could ever be friends again.
Candice then told Kyle and Jack this week she wants to repair her friendship with Roxy – after presenting the radio hosts with personalised gifts on-air just to get them on her side.
The gift wasn’t just a box of Ferrero Rochers or a re-gifted bottle of wine. One of the presents involved some kind of Swarovski crystal champagne flute. Sounds like something that chick from Australia Post would’ve given her execs as a bonus. Point is, you’re trying too hard. Please stop.
And Harry and Meghan are at it again. Their attempt to mark Remembrance Day backfired when they went to a Los Angeles cemetery to lay a handmaid wreath with a professional photographer in tow after Harry’s request to have a wreath laid on his behalf during the annual ceremony at the London cenotaph was denied by the palace.
Harry’s a former serviceman and the day is of obvious significance to him. But the professional photographs of the moment they then released? It got slagged off for being the blatant PR stunt it was.
They’re desperately trying to restore their image but they need to stop trying so hard.
Same with Karl Stefanovic. After a much-reported period of turmoil, he’s still working hard to get back on top as Australian TV’s golden boy.
Lately he has been getting back to basics and playing us the classic hits – spiking interviews with laughing fits, pledging to streak through Melbourne if Donald Trump didn’t win (just like he did five years ago on-air when he lost a bet that Australian cricket captain Michael Clarke wouldn’t get 100 runs against England).
No one’s asking you to streak. Just stop trying so hard.
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